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The chances are high that you may know a sister, mum, colleague, cousin or friend who is experiencing abuse behind closed doors. Unless you are trying to help someone who has been very open about her experiences it may be difficult for you to acknowledge the problem directly. However, there are some basic steps that you can take to assist and give support to a friend, family member, colleague, neighbour or anyone you know who confides in you that they are experiencing domestic abuse.
If your friend is being open with you and acknowledging the abuse, this is a positive. This is often a danger in an abusive situation. However, the decision to leave the relationship has to ultimately come from her and sometimes it can take women several attempts before they leave the relationship for good.
An abusive person will often tell the person they are hurting that it is their fault. Domestic abuse is always the responsibility of the abuser. Her self-esteem will probably be very low as a result of what has been happening. However, in reality she could probably cope a lot better than she thinks. She may still love him and believe that he may change.
This is often why women stay in abusive relationships for a long time. Unfortunately, unless he acknowledges that he has a problem and seeks professional help the abuse is likely to continue. It usually gets worse over time. One of the best things that you can do is point her in the direction of some help.
If she wants to leave she could think about going to stay in a refuge. There may be legal options she could pursue such as an injunction against him, or involving the police. She could also get in touch with a local domestic abuse service for support, whether she wants to leave or to stay in the relationship. Remember that only her partner is responsible for the abuse. There is nothing that your mum could do that would make it acceptable for him to treat her this way.
Does she have friends or other family members that she can confide in? Encouraging her to talk about it is a really good step in the right direction. If you still live in the home with your mum you could talk to her about how the abuse is affecting you and making you feel.
Remember you also have a right to live in a home free from abuse. There is help available for your mum. If she wants to get out of the home she could go to stay in a refuge. She could get some emotional and practical support from a local domestic abuse service. There may be legal options that she Know any of these woman think about, like having him removed from the home or contacting the police. If you live with your mum and at any point you feel that either you or her are in physical danger you should call the police.
They are the only service that will be able to intervene in order to protect you both. My mum and I live with my dad but he mentally abuses my mum by shouting at her and saying nasty things. The way that your dad is treating your mum is completely unacceptable and would be classed as domestic abuse. Remember that neither you nor your mum is responsible for what is happening. It may be possible to have your dad legally removed from the house by way of an injunction called an occupation order.
To do this she would need to gather evidence of the emotional abuse and seek expert legal advice. However, this will probably mean leaving the local area and you changing schools. It may be possible to get some emergency accommodation in the local area through the local authority housing department. Your mum and you can also get some support and help from a local domestic abuse service. They would be able to help your mum think through her options and decide what is the best thing to do.
Remember that you and your mum do not have to continue to live this way.
There is help out there for you both. What can I do to stop it happening? However, if you hear an incident and think that your neighbour is in danger, and any children she may have are also, then we would suggest contacting the police.
The police have a responsibility to respond and to undertake a risk assessment where there is domestic abuse taking place. If there are children in the house and you are concerned for their safety you could consider contacting social services. They would be able to work with the woman to help her protect her children from harm. You can then encourage her to seek some help. My friend keeps getting back together with her abusive boyfriend and I now find myself irritated, tired and getting angry with her, none of which are helpful.
Any advice on what I can do? Try to understand the reasons that your friend may have for staying in the relationship. Professional help would normally be required in order for a person to realise why they are abusive and to address their own issues. What normally happens is that the abuse increases in frequency and severity over time. As a result of the abuse her self-esteem is likely to be very low. Often an abusive person will tell the other person that the abuse is their fault.
If somebody is constantly telling you something, eventually you start to believe it. Encourage her to get in touch with a local domestic abuse service. This could take some of the pressure off you, as she would then have external help and support and someone else to talk to. Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website.
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How you can help. Listen to her, try to understand and take care not to blame her. Tell her that she is not alone and that there are many women like her in the same situation.
Acknowledge that it takes strength to trust someone enough to talk to them about experiencing abuse. Acknowledge that she is in a frightening and very difficult situation. Tell her that no one deserves to be threatened or beaten, despite what her abuser has told her. Support her as a friend. Encourage her to express her feelings, whatever they are.
Allow her to make her own decisions. This is her decision. Ask if she has suffered physical harm. If so, offer to go with her to a hospital or to see her GP. Help her to report the assault to the police if she chooses to do so. Be ready to provide information on organisations that offer help to abused women and their children.
Explore the available options with her. Go with her to visit a solicitor if she is ready to take this step. Plan safe strategies for leaving an abusive relationship.
Look after yourself while you are supporting someone through such a difficult and emotional time. Ensure that you do not put yourself into a dangerous situation; for example, do not offer to talk to the abuser about your friend or let yourself be seen by the abuser as a threat to their relationship. Supporting survivors — your questions answered. My mum's partner is abusive. My dad is abusing my mum. I've heard fighting next door. My friend keeps going back to her abusive partner. Learn more about abuse.
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