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Hi guys. I'm new here Lately, I've been stressed by a new addition in my boyfriend's life: his female friend from work. He and I are in our 20s and have been together for two years. We've had a solid and happy relationship until this point And I feel that my boyfriend should be more alert to the red flags that I'm seeing from her.
Henceforth I will call this girl "Lacey" and I'll call my boyfriend "Joe. Besides those scary facts, this is my biggest problem with her: She seems clueless about proper behavior when being friends with a man in a relationship. Here are some examples:. Then I started realizing she had no interest in being friends with me. Also, she would only text him, not me.
I found it very rude and started not wanting to hang out with her. I got tired at midnight and went to bed.
Instead of leaving soon after which seems proper to meshe stayed and talked with Joe until after am. Once, they were out for about 6 hours. I ended up going to bed by myself. My boyfriend insisted that it was fine and normal. I feel it wasn't right. I didn't like the vibe I got from that.
He said I was uglyyyy," she said while laughing. I just sat there like, Really? You think I wanna hear about what you two banter about? Joe insists that he knows what flirtation is, and doesn't flirt with her. Now she has a lunch shift that coincides with Joe's. They've gotten lunch together a few times now. And she has posted two Instagram photos of them at lunch together. She likes referring to him as her BFF "best friend forever". In the second photo, she was pressed against his side with her hand wrapped around his upper arm. It was a pose that could be construed as either innocent or a bit too cozy.
So that's it in a nutshell. I keep trying to avoid blaming Joe for condoning and going along with her questionable behavior especially those dinners they used to get. He also thinks I'm judging her too harshly and reading too far into her behavior.
And I think he's egging her on by condoning questionable behavior: letting her take pictures of them together, buying her a funny shirt, texting her regularly, etc. I just don't know how to feel about this, guys. I hope you can tell me your thoughts about this. I know that asking him to end their friendship is out of the question. That's not my job as his girlfriend. But am I crazy for thinking she's behaving inappropriately?
Or is he behaving inappropriately too? Am I crazy for thinking he shouldn't be hanging around with a woman who cheats shamelessly? Am I crazy for thinking that spending evenings alone with her is inappropriate from now on, now that they have the opportunity to get lunch together? I would really appreciate any advice or thoughts you guys have on my situation. It's so hard feeling so alone.
Click to choose posts category Show expert posts Show community posts. Ask the community. He's nonjudgmental a little too much, in my opinion He's extremely loyal and respectful towards women. He's a clear and honest communicator. My happiness is one of his greatest priorities, but he won't compromise his values or beliefs to please me. He gets sad about the fact that he has very few friends.
He doesn't want to lose Lacey's friendship. Here's the facts about me: I'm pretty smart and diplomatic. I'm a pretty good judge of character and strongly dislike unethical people. I'm not a jealous person and know that I can't change someone or dictate how to live their life. If there is a conflict, I always scrutinize my feelings and perspective before the other person's. Here's the facts on Lacey: She's in her mid-twenties and is single. She comes across as attractive and normal She got pregnant as a teenager and has two kids by two men.
She was married to Dad 2 until he cheated.
Then she started cheating WITH him on his currently-pregnant girlfriend. She felt zero guilt about this. Now Dad 1 has temporarily moved into her apartment with his new girlfriend. Lacey is now cheating with him instead.
Again, she feels no guilt for doing this. Here are some examples: - When Joe and I first started hanging out with her, we'd go out every weekend. Dealing with jealousy when it first starts. Article jealousy, YPc. If trust was broken by a partner. Article breakups, trust, YPc. First, please understand that I want no part in ruining someone's relationship.
To cause someone pain is the very last thing I want. I am not here to get advice on how to "get him to break up with her". I'm here to share my story and perhaps hear back from others who have experienced the same thing. I met this man a few years back, and there was instantaneous physical attraction to him. We had run into each other a few times, briefly spoken and that was all.
But soon we became inadvertently involved in the same projects, and our friendship continued to grow He knows how I feel about him, because I told him. Perhaps not the extent, but that there are definitely feelings.
Obviously, since he has a girlfriend, I also told him that I would say or do nothing to try to change that and we continued to hang out more and more. He is very kind to me and treats me well. We both listen to each other, and I feel as though I can trust or tell him anything. I believe he feels the same about me, because he has talked about many things that are clearly personal matters, and mentions his girlfriend to me on occasion, even telling me that things aren't going well.
I, of course, try to steer him in the direction of trying to work things out with her, because I assume he is happy with her and I DO like his girlfriend too. Even if I didn't, it wouldn't be something I would try to work to my advantage. He treats me very much in a manner that seems like more than 'friendship' to me.
Perhaps it's just a STRONG friendship, but there is often little touches, flirting, obvious desire to spend time with me, buying food and drinks whenever we go out to eat. We have SO much in common, more so than I think he does with his girlfriend, and there is definitely a vibe of understanding in one another. It does make me wonder sometimes if he really feels more for me than even a strong friendship. I also know guys are often flirtatious with their friends too.
But it's also the way he looks at me, and is completely at ease around me I know a lot of you will think, "Why does she continue to hang out with him if she's obviously unable to have him? Well, the hurt just comes from my desire being unrequited and of course worrying about "what if" he decided to begin something with me only if it were after leaving his girlfriend, in what my deepest of hopes would be a mutual decision between him and her where there is as little hurt as possible and worrying if he would just do the very same thing with another girl I want what is best for everyone but I don't want to lose him as a friend.
Just having him near is good enough, knowing that he cares about me in SOME healthy way. That is the extent of it. I know I'm continuing to get my hopes up, but I also know the reality Girl friend for my girlfriend it. I know he may not even be infatuated with me, and that I might just be reading too much into it.
I know I may be in love with the "idea" of him, though I personally feel that isn't so What are your thoughts? Any similar stories? There must be Thank you all for reading. Ask the community someone else, flirting. My wife recently took a new job. I will start off by saying she is very honest, loyal and has a history of being good friends with other men as well as women. I have never doubted her loyalty to me and continue to believe that she will be faithful. In addition, to be fair, I can be jealous at times she never gets jealous and have had moments of making something out of nothing on occasion.
In her new job, she immediately became friends with a male co-worker who I know is mids she is She insists it's nothing more than a friendship and that is her intention which is all that matters. They did end up out together one night for drinks after a few co-workers left and then a few days later he bought her an expensive bottle of wine which she told me about. I attempted to blow this off trusting my wife. The issue came up when I discovered texts from this man over the course of an evening until after midnight, including songs and videos he was sending her and a minute phone conversation while I was out that evening.
I then looked at her computer I know I shouldn't have and found that they were instant messaging each other all day at work. Nothing inappropriate but it wasn't all focused on work either. I confronted her after seeing this occur over several weeks - she insisted nothing was going on, he apologized the day after he texted and called her at night and that she had no bad intentions.
Since then I assume they instant message each other during work and recently was at home and saw him text her at 10pm. I asked why he was texting her and she got pissed saying i didn't trust her. I trust my wife but I don't trust this other individual that I know sits next to her and works with her every day. She asked me what I want her to do - the problem is I want her to figure it out herself that she shouldn't respond to him after a certain time period. Am I wrong? I hate fighting with my wife and we see this very differently but I don't think I am wrong.Girl friend for my girlfriend
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